"I love my work. Will my work love me one day?"
A business psychotherapist with 30 years of professional experience uses real stories and professional analysis.
Explore the answers to the questions with you.
For most modern workers, the reasons we’re unhappy are usually mundane: We don’t like our boss, we didn’t get the raise, our performance review didn’t go well, or maybe our boss reminds us of our dad who thought we were never good enough.
We spend more than 18 years in our families, where our personalities and behavior patterns are shaped; and most of us will have a career that lasts more than 50 years and exceeds 90,000 working hours; however, the influence of family experiences is so strong that even if it hinders our progress, we continue to unconsciously reproduce these emotional reactions from our private past in the workplace.
Over-trying, perfectionism, fear of rejection, hero worship, impostor syndrome…
All sorts of messy personal emotions are intertwined into the crazy daily work life, all of which stem from the influence of family experiences.
The author of this book is Naomi. Xia Lagai is a counselor with 30 years of experience in psychological counseling and family therapy, and now focuses on helping companies and individuals solve the psychological barriers that lead to work-related problems. In her counseling work with clients, she discovered how early family experiences profoundly affected clients’ performance at work. Therefore, Naomi will use real case stories, personal life experiences, and professional insights as a psychologist, and provide a self-test questionnaire to allow readers to simply examine the emotional problems that cause their own work obstacles and trace whether the roots are related to family or growth experiences.
We revisit the past not to cling to it but to be free.
By reviewing early experiences, becoming aware of one's own behavioral patterns in the workplace, identifying the pros and cons of these extreme characteristics, and then learning to manage one's own reactions, work with people with different behavioral characteristics, and regain satisfaction and happiness from work.
Recommended by all parties
Do you like yourself at work? If the answer is "no", this book will help you slowly find the direction of change based on your past growth environment. ——Su Yixian, clinical psychologist
We often face self-deprecation, rigid thinking, or a feeling of inadequacy at work. However, there are always two sides to every coin. After reading this book, you will find that what you have always thought to be your own shortcomings may be the characteristics that allow you to survive. ——Seaweed Bear Psychology Writer
The most valuable thing about this book is that it helps us understand who we are and who our colleagues are, and no longer regard workers as economic production units, but as living flesh and blood. Whether you are a manager or a subordinate, a boss or an employee, this book can help you find humanity and warmth, growth and forgiveness at work, which are the elements we deserve in our lives. ──Margaret. Margaret Heffernan, author of Wilful Blindness
About the Author
Naomi. Naomi Shragai
She graduated from the University of Southern California and completed systematic psychotherapist training at Tavistock Clinic in London. She has more than 30 years of professional experience. In addition to working as a psychotherapist and family therapist in private clinics, she has also worked in the UK National Health Service (NHS) and private hospitals. She currently specializes in helping companies and individuals solve psychological barriers that cause work problems.
Shalagai is also a freelance journalist for The Times and The Guardian. Since 2008, his work has been published regularly in the Financial Times, focusing mainly on the psychological aspects of work and life. In his previous career, Shalagai was also a stand-up comedian, working at a comedy club in London and appearing on radio and television. Currently living in North West London.
She graduated from the University of Southern California and completed systematic psychotherapist training at Tavistock Clinic in London. She has more than 30 years of professional experience. In addition to working as a psychotherapist and family therapist in private clinics, she has also worked in the UK National Health Service (NHS) and private hospitals. She currently specializes in helping companies and individuals solve psychological barriers that cause work problems.
Shalagai is also a freelance journalist for The Times and The Guardian. Since 2008, his work has been published regularly in the Financial Times, focusing mainly on the psychological aspects of work and life. In his previous career, Shalagai was also a stand-up comedian, working at a comedy club in London and appearing on radio and television. Currently living in North West London.